Happy New Year and Welcome to 2023
How’s the new year going to be different and better? Have you created positive goals/affirmations? Hope so. It’s always good to look forward with positive anticipation. Thoughts are things. Goals help shape how you see and act on things.
And then, even in the best of times, visions don’t pan out. Surveys show that New Year’s resolutions are achieved less than 25% of the time. The expression is, People make plans, God laughs.
WE GO WHERE WE LOOK.
Of all the talented students, athletes and business people with whom I’ve had the pleasure to know and work, its been the most successful, who not only began their journey with a clearly defined plan, but who also continued to execute that plan with great focused ATTENTION and consistent ACTION. Behind, under and around that plan is your dream or goal. Your having a clear REASON, a PURPOSE, a WHY to reach your goal, along with that clear plan, helps keep a positive focus on decisions with which you’ll be faced and choices you’ll need to make. The most successful develop the habit to choose to take action NOW. To repeatedly answer your inner mind’s question, “Shall I make the call now or later?” with a clear “NOW,” helps fulfill the promise that 50% of success is simply showing up. In keeping with the KISS principle, I offer the following:
1. Based on longer term goals, set short term goals (a year or less). Consider growing/learning in physical, mental, emotional, family, social and spiritual areas for a greater balance in life. The failure to plan is a plan to failure.
2. Show up. Follow through with the priorities on your To-Do list as if you were happy and grateful to do them. Most people talk themselves out of doing things rather than into doing them, until sooner or later, they’re forced to do them. Add stress to procrastination and you have a cocktail for mediocrity. Instead of focusing on ALL the work to do, the calls to make, the people to deal with, etc., stay in the simplicity of the current moment. Half the success is showing up. Most people don’t show which gives you the competitive edge. Most business comes down to doing the numbers. Nothing sexy, just the numbers. Start a task with energy, a smile, good posture, a positive attitude and the momentum of presence begins opening doors. Starting, even slowly, is enough for the neurotransmitters dopamine and adrenaline to kick in and pick up the motivation and rhythm of the activity.
3. Pay attention to your options and choose carefully in line with your goals. Communications is said to be approximately 90% non verbal. How well do you listen/pay attention? Can you get your ego out of the way long enough to hear another person’s story? Do you ask interested and interesting questions? What is really being said? No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care. Ask, pause to hear, address the issue with care. Your memory, your patience, your attractiveness (your ability TO ATTRACT!) increase. Most people are fragile, including even, and in particular, those who display harsh exteriors. Most posturing comes from fear. Relax and tune into your instincts. Don’t make everything a struggle. Surrender to each moment and allow your higher self to observe your experience. Let your strength flow within it.
4. Take positive action. To be in the moment and empathetic yet not to initiate action, promote the next step or ask for the order is an exercise in futility. You showed up. You payed attention. Here is where you ask for the referral or order, set the next appointment date. This can be for a social get together, your child’s next step, a travel plan, whatever small step is next. If fear holds you back from taking decisive action, ask yourself questions such as, “If I already were a great decision maker, what would I do and how would I do it? What would my physiology be? What would my voice, posture, tone be?” Also consider “What is the worst thing that could happen if I get a rejection or the answer I don’t want?” Reality is: then you’d know and could make your next decision based on the reality, not guess work . Evaluate the “risk/reward ratio” and learn to make decisions and act on them with confidence. Confidence is developed by creating victories. Don’t over think situations. Execute instead of analyze. Learn to weigh the facts and make decisions more quickly by practicing decisiveness. “No” keeps doors of opportunity and interest closed. Learn to say “yes” to opportunities that will stimulate, educate and engage you, even and especially if this takes you out of your comfort zone. After all, your comfort zone is where you’ve been and, unless that will satisfy you for a lifetime, you want to get out and STAY OUT of your Comfort Zone. Most of your dreams, goals and best remembered stories are little steps outside of your comfort zone. Baby steps will do. You decide the size of the step and the direction of the action.
5. Stay far away from the dream killers in your life. Choose and spend time with friends and associates who are problem solvers, curious and are continuing to grow.
6. Replacing old habits with ‘what you want instead’ rewires your brain and creates new behaviors. This happens when the consistency of thinking, visualizing success and making a better choice here and there dominates your automatic responses.
To change habits, learn more easily and to succeed regardless of the economy, naysayers, past failures, apathy and stressors, consider a Personalized Hypnosis session. It’s an hypnosis session of your goals and desired changes of habits and attitudes. I’ve created thousands of these sessions over 5 decades. Each session is tailored to help change attitudes and habits faster and easier than anything you’ve done before.
Your brain is powerful enough to create anything you truly desire. If you are interested in sleeping better, losing weight, improving memory, scaling up your business, developing a do-it-now attitude, goals setting and getting, etc,…contact me for information.
As Napoleon Hill stated in his book Think and Grow Rich, “What the mind of man can see and believe it can achieve.”
Make it a great year/life!
Barry
